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One-on-Ones (OoOs) are a bilaterally beneficial venture. OoOs help you develop professional relationships. It's middle space to reflect, share, learn about each other; become more aligned to take on the opportunities our team has.
As a Team Lead, you know that a OoO is a chance for you to get a better idea of how this person in front of you thinks, what they're curious about, what they are observing, what their hopes and dreams are. Model the behaviour you want to see by giving them a better sense of what you're curious about, what you're observing and your sense of how the team could evolve. Engage with them as a partner, a colleague.
Create space for exploratory conversations that contextualize the short, medium, & long term of the work. Reflect on victories, imagine the future and generate clarity about what next steps may get you there. Identify systemic road blocks and commit to addressing them.
As this meeting is about the professional relationship and unifying...
I had a hard time naming this conversation with Jonathon Levinson! Jonathon walks us through an eclectic collection of insights and areas of expertise.
Jonathon defied my efforts to define him. He inspired me with his mindset and agile approach to delivering value that is driven by the challenge... not any solution he might have.
Among other things, Ryan Benoit and I talked about Zoom backgrounds, lighting and production quality.
All too often, I'm guilty of dismissing such things as superficial. Oops. Ryan helped open my eyes to how important and valuable our attention to the details are. Those things say something about us and, often, they influence the relationships we're building, too.
Here's Ryan B on Creating Quality Content (16:24)
I want to know what work is engaging my colleagues and powering our growth.
It was a pleasure to have a conversation with Erin M about the power of events at iQmetrix to create and strengthen relationships with our clients.
I won't spoil it too much. It's really worth watching. However, I will tell you - to no-one's surprise - that every iQer involved in delivering events is the secret sauce.
Erin M on Events (16:16)
Also, this is part of an ongoing quest to better see what we're learning. If you missed it, here's Andrew K on Functional Programming.
“How are you?”
You offer a smile but it can’t quite make it to your eyes. You are trying to be okay.
But every once in a while you feel the weight of the stress. For a moment, maybe more, it feels like too much. Everything you’ve been told and raised to believe means those emotions are a sign of weakness, that you shouldn’t have them.
Research now shows this just isn’t true.
Ignoring the emotional burden of stress has a dramatic affect on mental health, and mental health is the critical component for productivity, creativity, fulfilling relationships and overall life satisfaction. Ignoring that emotional burden
can dramatically impact your own success, not to mention it can also lead to physical symptoms of stress.
So maybe you’ve been told that acknowledging the emotional burden isn’t what professionals do, but it turns out it’s actually what the most successful professionals do.
In this talk, we...
I’m a type A, achiever, but regardless, I think most people know what I am talking about when I share how good it feels when you just had a solid, productive day. With the recent adjustment to moving to home for so many people, I thought that I would share some of the disciplines that I have used to get more of those “hell, yeah!!” type days.
1. Don’t expect them to all be “Hell, yeah” days. We can be so hard on ourselves, especially if you are high on the Achiever motivation profile. Checking things off the list and showing how much you can do are the things that make you feel good. So it’s easy to internalize a mediocre day. Best advice – Reflect intentionally on what got in the way and make a plan so that tomorrow can be better. Move on.
2. Don’t go all in all day. If you have kids at home or a dog, this probably won’t be as much of a problem, but sitting at your desk all day and churning out work is not good. You...
Interpersonal relationships and issues that are loaded with emotional nuance can take a heavy toll on our work experience.
There's a helpful tool to take a look what is actually happening with "drama." It helps us see where it's coming from and, more importantly, what we can do about it.
Even better, it's a credible tool, not just something I made up. A social scientist named Stephen Karpman created this model in 1961 and it just makes sense.
Officially, the "Dreaded Drama Triangle" names three roles in an unhealthy relationship: The Victim, The Persecutor and The Rescuer. Each role contributes and feeds off the other.
In this all-too-common dynamic, individuals make presumptions about their responsibility and their role. Once they accept that role, they have little choice and are often simply reacting to the actions of other roles. The drama can feed on itself. Reactions echo and amplify, making the situation worse, not better.
Here's a more detailed Forbes article if you want to...